WHY I WILL CHOOSE TO BE A MEDIOCRE
A sequel to ‘why I am a mediocre?’
I have
always feared the thin line between loneliness and having a great company... a
company of friends I meant. People have often said that, failure is an orphan
and success always has many fathers. Quiet true though but I have realised that
success though will bring you many fathers but most times leave you with
untrustworthy fellows.
My reason
for reaching this compromise is this, when people are really placed on the
scale of their ulterior motives for associating with some of us, it is always
because of something they believe we are, and what they can get through what we
are or have become. Like a king’s friend who doesn’t want to be called by his
name again but prefers the appellation ‘the king’s friend’ somehow lost in the
identity of another or the joy to relish the fact that when somebody talks of a
particular figure you can arrogantly say, ‘I know him’, or perhaps pick your
phone and say, ‘let me even call him now’.
Such most
times, do not really wish for success but just yearn and find satisfaction of
being associated with success. That, is not my resolve, I’ll rather be a
success than be associated with it, because your association doesn’t make you
that thing, it just gives you a level of clearance to relating with it not
being it. ‘Thus, a successful individual might enjoy plethora of relationships
and associations but most of which are based on what we have become and not who
we are.
Some school
of thoughts might actually want to relate that there is quite a degree of
relationship between who we are and what we become, but really, a cursory and
pellucid view will reveal the antithetical content of such assertion. True,
there is a force of attraction bestowed by posterity on success but can this
ad-infinitum number of persons relate with us as much as they do now when we
are stripped off our ‘what we have become’ to our basic essences.
Ask every
successful person, he may not be able to genuinely count a 20 of persons who
would have been to them what they are to him if he had not become who he is. Please
bear in mind that I said, ‘genuinely’. (And very well like a man with a limited
knowledge I am open to contrary opinions as I have not found a monopolised
island of knowledge for one individual, but if you do find you let me know so I
go there to pick all the substance of knowledge available)
That is why
an unsuccessful person can easily tell who is friend is than the successful. Why?
For unsuccessful people, everyone comes to the table of life with their
frailties, with their nothingness, just as bare as they are. Needless to say,
an unsuccessful man has more genuine friends than a successful man, because to
become a successful friend of an unsuccessful person, you need to accept him as
he is even if you are a million times better than he is.
This,
sometimes, attempts to tempt to make me resolve to settle for mediocrity, but I
will not. What I will only do now is to put my heart consciously to identifying
genuine friends while I work on my walk to success. Yet, to save you from a
circle of ceaseless longing of wanting to become a success by addictively
committing yourself to attaining and achieving things, I will tell you that the
true matter in success is not in achieving things, but in finding a peace in
your heart about your life, about who you are, where you are, those you have,
and... It bedrocks itself on this... finding your purpose, for this is the only
thing that makes a man larger than life.....
And mediocrity
isn’t my last resort, so I refuse.... mediocrity.
He is presently the Administrative Secretary of The Renewal Team, International, an organisation designed to mentor, teach, inspire and motivate.
He equally serves as the Editor in Chief of the publishing Department of the organisation. An office he has occupied for more than 7 years.
A journalist by profession; a poet, innately and creatively, a speaker, an author and a life coach.
Of recent,
he published one of his numerous yet-to-be published books, ‘Defining Sex and You’ a book
distributed for free in
schools and juvenile homes across Nigeria. Coupled with this, ‘Asirvo’ equally speaks in
conferences, seminars and workshops.
You can read his profile and
notes on the various social media where he has his presence or contact him
through the following media:Telephone: 08179126315
Email: alabi_olamide73@yahoo.com
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